This is a previous post from 2013 and it's still one of my favorites.
My childhood "One Gift Christmas" was that moment in Childhood time when all of my future Christmases were defined.
Even though I sit here today with windows and doors open to a perfect Southern Arizona winter's day, the memory of that particular Christmas so many years ago, on a cold northeast Nebraska Christmas Eve night, is as fresh as the moment it took place.
It’s raining
buckets this morning and as I sit here in the pre-dawn hours with Christmas
fast approaching a bit-o-nostalgia seeps through to my Souls.
My childhood "One Gift Christmas" was that moment in Childhood time when all of my future Christmases were defined.
Even though I sit here today with windows and doors open to a perfect Southern Arizona winter's day, the memory of that particular Christmas so many years ago, on a cold northeast Nebraska Christmas Eve night, is as fresh as the moment it took place.
Visions of Grandparents,
real Christmas trees dripping with tinsel, draped in ropes made of popcorn
hand-crafted by myself and my brothers, dozens and dozens of gingerbread
Christmas cookies and images of Santa and his reindeer right alongside those of
Baby Jesus in His humble manger danced through my head, much like the
sugarplums in The Night Before Christmas.
Some years
the bounty of gifts were plentiful and some years not.
Around the
age of 10 or 11 I remember being told money was tight and my brother & I
would only receive 1 gift. Somehow I
knew the budget was $10 per kid.
Was I disappointed?
Not in the
least! Apparently somewhere along the
Holiday Line we’d been taught it wasn’t the gifts that made the Season, it was
the combination of all it entailed.
For that I
am eternally grateful.
My gift that
year was a birthstone ring (which I still have) and as an added bonus a dime store
handheld game where you shot bb’s through a series of mazes to earn points,
kind of like a miniature pinball machine.
Not only
were my expectations met, but exceeded because I got TWO gifts and not just the
one I was promised.
It didn’t
matter that it was a 10-cent item! It
was a bonus!
Expectations
are funny that way.
Either they
set you up for disappointment or elevate you to breathtaking heights of giddy
joy.
Funny thing
is …. we are the master controllers of our own expectations.
We carry
within us the Power to set ourselves up for mind-numbing disappointment or “shout
from the rooftops” unbridled joy.
As parents,
we also have the Power to set our children up before sending them down the expectation
path. It seems like it should be so
simple doesn’t it? Well, like most
seemingly simple things…it’s NOT!
Like most
parents, my parents did their best.
Sometimes that worked out well ….. sometimes not so much.
But this
morning as I sit here reflecting on Christmases Past the one instance that
rises to the top of my memory pool is the “One Gift” Christmas and how Mom
& Dad set the expectations at a level that didn’t lessen the Magic of
Christmas but made it even brighter by making it seem as though that ONE gift
was going to be SO special that it didn’t need to be accompanied by other
gifts.
It could stand on its own just fine.
It could stand on its own just fine.
Dad’s been
gone 22 years this January.
Mom turns 80
years-old in January.
Thanks Dad
for doing the best you could and for the good things you taught me, especially the
lessons that came free of charge on that “One Gift” Christmas.
Mom, thanks
for teaching me One Gift given with all your heart is priceless regardless of
its price tag.
Wishing
you all the blessings of a One Gift Christmas
May
all your expectations lead to joyful outcomes
And
may ALL your Christmases be Right and Bright
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